7 Kinds of Sex All Couples Need

TAKE-YOUR-SWEET-TIME SEX - When you have the gift of time, languishing in supersensory, soulful lovemaking can be a rhapsodic revelation...and a relationship booster. With sensual sex, it's not all about where you and your guy are going but the process that gets you there. "When you slow down and attempt to keep your orgasm at bay, you're more focused on exploring every inch of each others bodies and savoring your time together."

The emotional benefits are long-lasting too. "Knowing that he cares enough to lavish his love on you for hours, and that you're his number one priority, builds confidence and security." "Plus, your bond in general will feel more intimate because you've made the bedroom a place for enjoying each other, not just sexual sensations."

LIGHT-SPEED SEX - A quickie is kind of like an earthquake: It gets your adrenaline rushing, is over in a flash, and leaves you weak in the knees. Besides releasing your pent-up lust, initiating a quickie can be the ultimate compliment to your guy because it shows how deeply you desire him.

In addition, when he's had a stressful day, a fast and furious romp really takes the edge off. Put simply: "Sometimes guys want to take their time, and sometimes they just want to get their rocks off." When you can tell he's in a horny, hasty mood, don't bother fully undressing — just pull his penis out of the opening in his boxers and push your panties aside. All you need for successful speed sex is lube. "It's your best friend when you don't have time to get completely warmed up."

SHOW-OFF SEX - You may think it would be easier to give a speech in the presence of 500 people than to masturbate in front of your man, but taking that plunge may be worth it — experts say that watching a woman pleasure herself is near the top of most men's fantasy wish lists. But it's not just a very personal peep show; it's a chance to teach him exactly how you like to be manhandled.

Revealing to your guy how you master your own domain is one of the most secretive and intimate things you can do.

COMFORT SEX - Anyone with a pulse would be crazy not to crave a hot-and-spicy sack session. But sometimes all you want is the sexual equivalent of mac and cheese: It may not be exciting, but it makes you feel so good. "People have sex for a lot of different reasons, and one of them is to be soothed and comforted." "Making each other feel loved and cared for is the most powerful way to bring the psychological and physical elements of your relationship together."

WILD-KINGDOM SEX - It's the raw, primal, grunting kind of sex that wakes the neighbors, scares house pets, and rattles bed frames — the more writhing and bucking, the better.

Any animalistic sex session starts, fittingly, on all fours (aka doggie-style). Grab his hands and wrap them around your waist — a cue that you want him to hold on and thrust — and he'll answer your call of the wild. Keep your neck down. It'll help you loosen up all the way down your spine so you can move your tush with gusto.

SURRENDER SEX - Men are conquest-loving creatures, which is why they get so hot when you let them take over. "If he feels like he's at the top of his game, your surrender is a power trip and a huge turn-on."

During foreplay, let your legs fall open and hold the headboard or pillows above you so your whole body is exposed to him. Then invite him to slide on top of you. Meet his thrusts halfway by rocking your pelvis upward against his and lifting your legs in the air with your feet spread far apart. This gives him room to maneuver his body and alternate between deep thrusting and short pumping. Then drape your legs over his shoulders so he can grab your ankles and position them where he wants them. "Tell him you want him to make you come." "It says that you want him running the show because he has the skills to get you there."

FEMALE-DOMINATION SEX - If he's been doing all the pouncing and pawing lately, take the reins. But a truly titillating takeover has to be authentic and not staged, so wait until you're really randy, straddle him, and say, "I'd love to be in charge tonight." Then gently grab his penis and rub it around your clitoris as if he were your personal sex toy.

Once you slip him in, pin his hands to the bed or tie him to the headboard with scarves or stockings while you grind against his lap in a circular motion. Or try this hot move: Stick your breasts in his face and instruct him to flick your nipples with his tongue — the only part of him that's free to move. He'll happily submit to your sexy request.

Another in-command position: girl-on-top 69. Rub your hot spot against his tongue and pivot your hips back and forth in sync with the lip service you're giving him.

That's all for now! I hope you learned something new here!

How to Make Condoms More Fun!

{ No need to bust out silly party tricks! Thanks to Cosmo's genius tips, wearing protection will be so pleasurable, your man won't ever bitch and moan about it again. }

Making condoms sound playful is easy (love glove, woody hoodie, peter parka...). But coming up with cutesy names isn't enough to get a guy to like wearing one, despite the fact that they ward off unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Lucky for you, Cosmo has found ways to maximize pleasure while using protection. "It's as simple as choosing the right rubber, making him feel at ease, and keeping the intensity high throughout the act," says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Sex With Your Ex. When you do all three, "he won't have the usual anxiety about losing his erection or not being able to climax." What's more, you'll be able to milk more sensations out of safe sex too. We're sharing it all right here.

SHOPPING TIPS

Most people spend all of seven seconds choosing a condom, according to data from Trojan. But a last-minute dash to the drugstore can mean less satisfaction in the sack. Below, we explain how to pick a winner.

Size matters. The right fit completely changes how a guy experiences sex with a condom. One that's too tight reduces sensation, takes longer to get on (which can deflate his erection), and is more likely to break. Quick sizing test: If you can't roll the raincoat all the way down to the base of his penis, it's not large enough. That said, an oversize one can slip off, and the extra material can make your dude feel inadequate.

Though the standard size of condoms is about 7 inches long, the length can vary up to an inch and girth sizes also range, so experiment with brands and styles (sites like list size categories).

Try a condom designed with a swirl or bulb at the end of it — it'll say so on the box, usually with a word like twist or pleasure or spiral. These models fit securely around the base of his shaft while creating more friction near the nerve-packed head of his penis.

Consider a polyurethane prophylactic. Unlike latex, they transmit body heat, making intercourse feel more sensual. If you and your guy are committed and STD-free, try a lambskin condom. These also transmit heat, and many men swear this type feels more like skin on skin. But they only protect against pregnancy, since the natural, porous material can allow the transmission of STDs.

LET'S GET IT ON!

Rolling one on doesn't have to ruin the mood.

The faster you can slip on a safety sheath, the less likely he is to go limp. Minimize fumbling by opening the wrapper during foreplay. Pull the condom out, and place two drops of lube inside. This increases sensation at the super sensitive head of his penis. Place the opening over the top of his shaft. Hold it there with one hand, lightly squeeze the tip of the condom, and use the other hand to unravel it all the way down to the base of his member.

For a treat, use your mouth. Dab your lips with lube, then lightly suck the (non-spermicidal!) disc into your mouth with the nipple end inward. (Grossed out? Try a flavored love glove.) Carefully wrap your lips over your teeth and put your mouth at the head of his member. Push your lips against the ring of the condom, slide it down his shaft, and unroll the rest with your hand. Ta-da!

PLEASURE MAKING MOVES

A condom needn't come between you, him, and a climax.

Squeeze your legs together in missionary or doggie-style to create extra pressure.

Make a V with your pointer and middle fingers, then place it between your legs. Press it against the base of his penis as he thrusts. This gives him more stimulation where the condom is tightest (i.e., most numbing).

Buy a vibrating ring — Trojan, Durex, and Life Styles sell them. It's a plastic band attached to a buzzing nub. Place the band around the base of the condom, with the nub facing your clitoris, and enjoy the pulsating ride.

That's it! Well, I guess with or without CONDOMS . . . PERFORMANCE would still matter. Right? Thanks COSMO!